@closer4kingdom In courtrooms, in church discipline, and in settings that borrow their tone (couples counseling, for instance), four accusations can quickly become trump cards for whoever plays them: • "You're in denial." • "You're playing the victim." • "You're manipulative." • "You're minimizing." Each of these is sometimes true. Denial, victim-playing, manipulation, and minimizing are real, and anyone who has walked with people in recovery has seen them